I don't believe that it is inappropriate for my own personal situation the mileage of others, however, may vary. I've been told by my Master that if we are ever faced with a public venue that won't accept it, then that is a place that I won't be going to. *grins*
"Is it Acceptable or Appropriate for your slave to call you Master at Denny's (or any other public place)?"
I pretty much call him Master in public no matter where we are, however, I don't shout it, say it overly loud, or draw attention to it in any way. There are times when I will just call him, "Love." Usually this is when small children are present or our wee one is around. I don't call him Master in front of my family but they do have an idea as to the nature of our relationship.
As far as it being acceptable or appropriate, I think if it is done subtly and without a great deal of volume or fanfare, that it is perfectly okay. It is when lifestylers go out of their way to constantly draw attention to themselves in front of the "vanilla" eye that I find it inappropriate. It is one thing to be subtle and use common sense - it is another thing entirely to blatantly shove it in people's faces at every available opportunity. I believe that a happy medium can be found that can and does benefit both lifestyler and John Q. Public.
"Is it Okay to have her kneel before you in a restaurant, cause using the furniture is a privilege?"
I think that is entirely up to each individual owner. In my case, my owner allows me to sit on the furniture in restaurants and public places. It doesn't make much sense to him to go out of his way to draw unnecessary attention to the two of us.
There have been occasions, however, when I have knelt in public. For example, there was a dinner date that we had nearly four years ago with some friends (a man and his two slaves) at a somewhat busy restaurant here in Vegas. My owner was drinking wine and when I asked if I might have a taste, he said, "Sure." and proceeded to pour some wine into the cupped palm of his hand. He then lowered it down near the floor so that the only way I could drink it was to kneel and lap it up from his hand and instructed me to drink.
At that point, I had two choices. Obey or fail. I chose to obey and though I was feeling rather self-conscious, once I was done I felt a surge of pride. I don't know what the other people in the restaurant thought... I would imagine they pretty much thought it was some sort of joke.
"How do you take the 24/7 lifestyles from the privacy of your Home Stone to the outside world?"
Very little changes from home to public for Master and myself. We have children at home, therefore I'm not crawling around naked every day in chains, writhing at his feet all the time. *grins* I don't do that in public either.
The lifestyle that my owner and I lead isn't about trappings, props, and role-playing. It is a life where he controls his environment (including me) and where I seek to be obedient and to please him. This is easily accomplished in public or private. Just as we wouldn't have sex at the mall for everyone to see, we wouldn't show other intimate aspects of our life to the public either.
"How do you make it more acceptable to be what you are when you are around people whom just wouldn't understand?"
There is really very little need to make it more acceptable in public or in front of people who don't understand because we really don't look that much different from them. Some small allowances are made but really they mean very little.
If I were to call my owner by his given name, it doesn't mean anything but that. My respect, deference, and obedience to him isn't in a word, but in my actions.
Example: "Fuck you, Master - I'm not going to do that!"
Where is the respect, deference, and obedience in that statement.. ?*grin*
Example 2: "Yes, Bob, I will fetch that for you right away." (and off I go to fetch it)
There is the respect and obedience. It isn't in a word but in attitude and action.
On the same note, the trappings don't make the relationship. He and I would still be the same people without the collars, silks, chains, etc. (but we really do love 'em!) We don't need to change who we are in public because we are who we are, period. What you see is pretty much what you get. Small allowances? Sure - but the bottom line is that there is a time and a place for everything. Common sense is the key and to remove some of the more blatant trappings for the public eye doesn't change the station, personality, or lifestyle of a person - it just makes it less visible to those who didn't ask to see it.
