Daily Rituals and Protocols

The following was offered on a submissive/slave board that I am on.  We were asked what daily rituals and protocols we followed in our every day life and also what we did to honor each other.

Within the relationship I have with my owner, there are various rituals and protocols that are observed on a daily basis. You asked to be specific so here goes :)

First and foremost, my collar never comes off. *happy smile* Also I often wear matching silver chain bracelets and anklets as it pleases him (and as my sensitive skin allows *grin*)

I only call him by his given name in the presence of our children, or in non-lifestyle company. I usually don't use his given name at those times, however, but rather call him "Love" or "My Love." His given name sounds foreign on my tongue when addressing him. LOL

I am to worship his feet a minimum of two times per day. This can be simply dropping to kneel at his feet and pressing a kiss to each one or it could mean several minutes with my forehead pressed to them. Either way, I am expected to do so at least twice per day in addition to those times he commands me to.

I am also given a daily list. When I wake up, Master is already gone for work. There is a list up on my computer in spreadsheet form. Before I am permitted to do anything, I must go and read it. It consists of a variety of things that I am to complete for the day along with a column that shows the time I started these tasks and one that indicates the time they are finished. Some examples of these tasks range from exercise to taking medication to laying out his clothes for the next day, the pre-preparation of his breakfast or the music that he desires to hear when he arrives home. The music changes with each day, depending on his mood.

When I serve him either food or beverage, the vessel or plate that carries it is to be kissed before it is offered. If time/situation/present company permits, I am to kneel in the offering of it.

I am also not permitted to begin eating in his presence until he takes his first bite. (Unless he indicates otherwise)

There are times when my owner will say to me, "Speak as a slave." and I am required (until he says otherwise) to speak in third person - no exceptions. If something happens and I am exposed to non-lifestylers during this time, I am expected to be creative and to improvise but without permission from him, I may not revert back to 1st person speech. For example, in a restaurant, he will order for me or speak for me to the server but if I choose to speak to that server, I must be creative in my third person speech as to make it appear as if it is nothing out of the ordinary.

I am not permitted to use the restroom without permission. Even while he is at work, I am to send a text message to his cell phone requesting permission. If I do not hear from him within 30 minutes, I may take care of my needs but I must note that I did not receive approval. (This is barring any illness, etc., that might require immediate attention). Even when we are sleeping, if I need to go in the middle of the night, I'm expected to wake him and ask. (I always feel guilty doing it lol)

If I wish to sit on the furniture in his presence, I must receive permission. Obviously there are times when outright asking permission wouldn't be acceptable due to present company so in those times, I simply look to him and ask with my eyes. He usually nods and it’s settled. *grin*

I also follow various verbal protocols when asking questions or when offering information after a command/decision, etc. has been issued.

For example, I may not say, "May I ask a question?" but rather am required to say, "Master, your slave begs information." or something similar, depending on present company.

If he has made a decision or issued a command and I feel that I have something important to offer with regards to that command before it is carried out, I must say "Master, your slave has information." or something similar, depending on present company.

At night, my ankle is often chained to the lower portion of the bed. It is not locked as in case of emergency, Master prefers me to be able to get out in a jiffy - it is simply there as a gentle reminder of my station while I sleep.

If time affords and we are able to shower together, I am expected to bathe him from head to foot. When we move, it will be nice because we will have a large tub in our Master bedroom and we won't need to be in the shower together in order for me to bathe him. I can simply do it every morning if he chooses to take a bath instead. (Our current master bathroom has a stand up shower - no tub)

There are also periods of time when he will administer 10 strokes from the implement of his choice before bed time every night. Sometimes this lasts for several months and then it will stop as it pleases him. (Then I usually wind up begging for it anyway LOL)

I am expected, to help him in falling asleep, to lightly rub his back, shoulders, etc. with my fingertips. There are times when I do not go to bed at the same time as I am kept up late by certain tasks (or even insomnia) but upon getting into bed, I am to do so, even if he is already asleep. I am also expected to sleep nude.

I am not permitted underwear without permission. I am given blanket permission, however, during *those times* when they are absolutely necessary. *grin* I am also not allowed to wear pantyhose or tights without permission. If something of that nature is necessary, I am to wear thigh-high stockings.

I am required to beg to orgasm and am not permitted to do so without permission - ever. I am not permitted to touch my own body in a pleasurable fashion without permission. That makes things especially difficult in the shower with the shower massager *laughs and winks*

There are many more protocols and rituals that we observe at other times that don’t necessarily fall into the “daily” category.

As far as the things that Master does to honor me... *smiles* He takes incredible care of me, actively masters me, rules me, loves me, uses me, provides for me, guides me, teaches me, corrects me, punishes me, rewards me, respects me, and never lets a day go by that he doesn't show me that my service to him is appreciated.

There are many people who believe that a M/s or D/s relationship cannot contain a great deal of structure when children are in the picture but in our case the above daily protocols, rituals, etc., are always in place. They just appear more subtle in the presence of our boys and go unnoticed by them.  To expose them to such things would not be suitable.